How to find your 9 to 3

How I got to working the 9 to 3

One of the questions I get asked the most on Instagram Direct Message is how to start working 9 to 3. It is also one of the hardest to answer! For me, I decided that this was the only way I could work and be the parent that I wanted to be. I make no judgement on anyone that needs to work longer or actually prefers to work. I’m all for the idea of ‘do what feels good’ for you. (thank you Adriene Mishler for that great quote!)

My example was set by my Mum who worked as a playgroup supervisor when I was little, before coming a Teachers Assistant whilst studying part-time through the wonderful Open University and finally qualifying as a teacher when I was 14 years old. I always took her presence for granted – she was there for every assembly, sports event and after school group.

Open University

We weren’t loaded and I understand now why we weren’t taking foreign holidays or why I attended the local community college and not a private school. These things didn’t really matter to me – my mum was there when I wanted her.

So when Amy was born, I felt that if I could, I wanted to follow in my mother’s footsteps – minus the teaching bit. It took time though, I went back to work 3 days a week 3 months after she was born and that increased to 4 days a week for a bit before we moved to the countryside and I went fully freelance (i.e. I was the main childcarer). Do I regret any of it? Not at all.

“The courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.”

Coco Chanel

Here is my biggest takeaway from my decision – it hits your financial outlook massively. I now earn less than half what I did when I was full-time but my income is growing year by year. It is scary and we should budget a lot more then we do – I am getting better with meal planning so not to waste food/money and we aren’t having meals out every week, let alone every month. We choose carefully where we spend our disposable income – which for us is travel. Our holidays and trips are very important to us as a family and therefore I can *just* about handle not having the wardrobe all my favourite Instagram accounts seem to have. (where do they put all their clothes?).

Don’t get me wrong, I would like more £££ but I’m playing the long game – time with my daughter will fly by so I’m willing to keep my business ticking over and then hopefully step it up as Amy gets older.

So… here are my initial questions when looking to go 9 to 3:

  1. Are you currently employed? Is there room for movement with hours?
  2. Are you qualified to work in a particular area?
  3. Did you LOVE your job/previous employment?
  4. Can you work from home?

Then my next set of questions would be:

  1. Do you want to still work in the same/previous industry?
  2. Are you able to take a refresher course/update your skill set?
  3. How much do you need to earn to keep you afloat?

Finally, I would ask:

  1. What is it that I really want to do with my time?
  2. What are my passions?
  3. What are my dislikes?

After that, I’d look through my answers and see what I could do. Look for examples of people doing the work that you want to do. With publicity, I’m able to work from home, yes, I do travel sometimes and I am trying to look for more local clients instead of travelling to London every 6 weeks. I love reading, admire all creatives and I know I’m good at selling their book/exhibitions to editors. I’m enthused by it. So when I was thinking about my 9 to 3, I knew that the job I already had, really was the best one for me.

If you are unsure or haven’t been working for awhile, I would recommend that after answering the questions above, that you consider:

I have a neighbour that trained as a beautician when her daughter was at pre-school to supplement her income as a personal trainer and another that trained as a Teachers Assistant and volunteered at a local school to get experience. It may be that that job you find yourself doing isn’t what you want in the long-term – that’s absolutely fine! My friend cleans houses 3 days a week but ultimately intends to be a Veterinary Assistant. The cleaning helps to pay her course fees AND gives her a bit of extra income too. I was considering setting up an Ironing business until I remembered that I hate ironing and I’m terrible at it.

It is a bitch but time really does make a huge difference. Plan what you want and then execute it with small steps and realistic expectations. You might not earn vast amounts but hopefully it will help to supplement your lifestyle and get you living the life that you want.

Resources to look at:

  • The Open University offer courses for you to do part-time.
  • I discussed in a previous blog post how I have used Future Learn to help update my skills. These are free online course. Read the post here.
  • 923 have a great blog which feature ideas on how to work 923. You’ll find my post here.
  • I’ve just come across The Early Hour which I’m really enjoying. The creator of the site, Annie Ridout has just published a book, The Freelance Mum that I’m hoping to read soon.