…and how to avoid it
I recently read an article in the Telegraph by Maria Lally that was warning mothers to not ‘fall into the freelance trap.” It was published in March 2019 but I do feel that it is still very relevant.
In the article, Lally suggests that by being a stay at home working mum, you actually double your workload – you end up doing the household chores AND your work. Your days are longer and you get the joy of seeing your partner skip out the door each morning knowing that the pick ups, PE kit, swimming lesson taxi driving role is being handled by you.
It is all true – it really is. In the last few years, I have definitely ended up doing a lot more round the house, and I wrote about this in this blog post about ’emotional labour’. Lally only rescues herself from this role by taking an office job which takes her out of the house. Her partner works from home one day a week to help out.
This is the bit that sticks with me – why should you have to change your job or get an office job to be able to work and live happily? Working from home is no picnic even if I know that I’m envied by my office job friends. There is the inevitable distractions and I do a lot of the housework but I have spent a few years now honing my day structure and this has really helped me.
Here is what I do:
- From the hours of 9am to 3pm, I prioritise work. It is that simple.
- Before 9am, I set up the household chores – washing machine is put on, dishwasher emptied , clothes put away, beds made.
- I take natural work breaks – hang the washing out, or prep the dinner but nothing that takes longer than a work break in the office.
- After 3pm, I down tools, go pick up my daughter and then parenting stuff.
- After bedtime, I may get my laptop out and run through a few emails but otherwise, I’ll wait until 9am the next day.
How I am able to do this?
- I am really honest about my working hours to my clients
- My husband is aware of the work that I do every day – we have a shared calendar so he can see what I have lined up
- There is nothing like a deadline to focus you! I work smarter and harder on my chosen limited hours than I was when I worked longer hours in an office
- I try and not take on too many clients. Does this mean that I am losing potential income? Absolutely but it is a sacrifice that I am willing to make at this stage in my life.
- It is a juggle and I’m always re-addressing it but so far, this seems to be the best way of working for me.